Healthy conflict is a way of handling and resolving the differences of opinion that occur between spouses or partners. Healthy conflicts consist of 3 stages: preparing for the conflict and stating its agenda; the heated part of the argument; and the negotiation or wind-down phase. Many couples engage in mutual blaming and accusations, explosive anger, and not hearing each other.
Different ideas result in conflict in the following areas at some time in most relationships:
A relationship will not be truly intimate unless each partner knows what the other one is thinking and feeling. This means bringing differences of opinion out into the open, not "suffering in silence." Speaking up, finding out what's wrong, and then coming to a joint decision on what to do about it are signs of a healthy relationship. Many people do not learn these skills in childhood and may therefore need to learn how to have a healthy conflict.
The conflict is over when both parties agree to a compromise or agree that the conflict is over.
When the conflict is over:
Share your thoughts with your partner.