Today I returned from two weeks of caring for my mother in Florida as she slides towards the natural end of life. In the last two and half months I have been by her side for five weeks. It’s been hard. It’s painful to watch her dwindle, like a candle that is barely flickering, but still lit. I have had the opportunity to hold her hand at 3 a.m. in the morning, as she lay in her hospital bed at home, short of breath, frightened, waiting for the liquid morphine to work that I dropped under her tongue. I have been able to give her comfort in this final chapter of her life. I have been able to... Read More
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I am in the air again, flying to see my mother.
But this time, it’s because she is in the ICU.
My brother called me Sunday night and told me that she was admitted to the hospital because of breathing problems. She had another heart attack, developed pneumonia, and is now on a ventilator. My brother is already there, waiting for me.
One week earlier, our entire extended family was in Florida spending a week at a beach house. My mother sat on the beach, watching her three great grandchildren play in the sand; her adult grandchildren care for them, and her children... Read More
It’s a fact. Many of us are growing older—especially the lucky ones!
A colleague of mine, who is turning 60 this year, was surprised at how big that number seemed to him! What did it mean? Why was he so rattled? After all, isn’t 60 just a number?
Milestone birthdays have significance. Turning 21, 30, 40, 50, 65, 70 and beyond bring forth a stream of feelings and concerns and can precipitate an emotional crisis. Most of the upheaval occurs during the year before, in preparation for the big day.
Turning 30 was a big deal for me! I didn’t want to be there. Somehow, I... Read More