Many folks wonder—what does a psychologist do? So, I thought I would share a typical day with you, of course changing any identifying details of the many people I see. I consider myself fortunate. I have a great job! I get to come to work everyday and help both kids and adults become the individuals that they want to be. It’s very gratifying. I also have the opportunity to be the Director of the Behavioral Health Department at The Everett Clinic (TEC), which is also very meaningful. I enjoy mentoring many outstanding mental health clinicians and to participate, in some small way, in the... Read More
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Do you wake up feeling tired? Do you check your work email before you get out of bed? Do you work at your desk during lunch? Do you run from meeting to meeting without a moment in between? Do you wonder if you can ever keep up with all of your work email?
(Gee, some days that sounds like me!)
An article in The New York Times (February 9, 2013, “Relax! You’ll be more productive” by Tony Schwartz) cites some interesting research that demonstrates that taking more time to relax and recharge actually increases productivity and work efficiency.
It’s easy to think that... Read More
When I was growing up in the 50’s and 60’s, education was entirely focused on learning basic academic skills. As a card-carrying member of the Sputnik generation, school was very competitive. The space race with the Soviet Union resulted in teachers trying to cram students with facts, like stuffing a turkey on thanksgiving.
But in the last decade, educators realized that academic knowledge alone does not predict success in life or result in high performance at work.
In today’s world, most work is performed in “teams” where social and emotional intelligence are an integral... Read More
There is no doubt that women struggle the most with work/life balance issues. But this is becoming a growing issue for men too. The Pew Research Center found that since 1965, men have tripled the time they spend with children. In the last decade, the number of stay at home dads has doubled. With the recent economic downturn, more middle-aged men have lost their jobs than ever before. The net result—many of these men are at home while their wives work. It’s a changing world.
Don’t get me wrong. In my opinion, working women have the lion’s share of this challenge. According to a... Read More
It is not uncommon for a 40-50 year old male to come into my office with anxiety and confusion. “I don’t know if I’m in love with my wife anymore”, “I hate my job!” “I’m not sure I ever wanted to be physician, now I feel stuck”, “I hate the Puget Sound! Maybe we should move”, or “I want to travel around the world!” These guys are depressed and anxious. They can’t remember the last time they had a good night’s sleep. It’s as if they want to throw everything away that they have built for the last 20 years--take my word for it, they’re scared.
Naturally, their spouses are confused... Read More
This is a guest blog from James Dauer, Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Mr. Dauer sees Behavioral Health patients at our Smokey Point location.
Let’s face it. For the most part, we do not like change. We like what we like. Back in the Day and The Good old Days are common pop culture themes that direct our mind to a better time and place—at least for some. Such themes resonate with today’s modern lifestyle and have made their way into music and the movies.
Remember When is a moving song by country... Read More
I hope you are not tired of this topic quite yet!
A day doesn’t go by where one social scientist, reporter, or self-help guru doesn’t pass judgment on this simple idea—we are entitled to happiness. Yet this simple notion turns out to be quite complex. And like many simple things, elusive.
Since 1972, social scientists at the University of Chicago have surveyed Americans on this subject every other year. For the last forty years, roughly 1/3 of Americans say they are “very happy” and half report being “pretty happy.” Only about 10-15 percent typically say that aren’t too happy... Read More
I read a column in the New York Times last Sunday, called the “Workologist”. Readers write in questions about work problems. This week, a reader described a co-worker as a “narcissistic, selfish, and terrible manager”. He tried confrontation, but when that didn’t work, he attempted to make friends with her. She didn’t respond well. Frustrated, he finally went to her boss—no help there either. He is ready to look for another job, but in this job market, it won’t be easy. He wants to know what to do.... Read More
It seems like every day I run into someone who doesn’t take care of themselves. This has become an epidemic, and I believe that it has dire consequences for our bodies, our minds, and our spirits.
Jodie works for a small company in the marketing department. She has worked there for 5 years and feels that she deserves a more substantial raise. Her boss tells her how the bad economy has impacted their business but she is starting to feel resentful and angry. Why doesn’t her boss see how hard she is working and what a great job she is doing?
Mary and Sarah, recently married... Read More
In 2013, this topic continues to be a source of debate and discussion. It’s not hard to figure out why. In the hey days of the early 2000’s, when the economy was soaring, many high powered Moms, working 60 hours a week, just threw down their laptops and said—“Enough! I can’t take it anymore!” It was just too hard to balance a big job (lawyer, doctor, or business executive) with taking care of two or three young children. They were fried. At that time, there was a lot of media attention given to this group of women that left their jobs to be able to see their children off in the morning, be... Read More