Turning 40 is a big birthday. The worst thing you can do is give your partner a surprise 40th birthday party! It heralds a new decade that “20 something’s” think of as “getting old”. I remember when I was growing up in the 60s we talked about “never trusting anyone over 30”. We were the original wise guys! My 40th birthday was great! I was about to move to this terrific new place, Seattle, and I was starting a new adventure in my life. I finally felt more secure in my profession. I was enjoying my children, who were a little older, and required less heavy lifting. It was a good moment in... Read More
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I read a column in the New York Times last Sunday, called the “Workologist”. Readers write in questions about work problems. This week, a reader described a co-worker as a “narcissistic, selfish, and terrible manager”. He tried confrontation, but when that didn’t work, he attempted to make friends with her. She didn’t respond well. Frustrated, he finally went to her boss—no help there either. He is ready to look for another job, but in this job market, it won’t be easy. He wants to know what to do.... Read More
This is a good question to ask. It is easy to find yourself chasing the rabbit that is in front of you—not because you really want to, but just because it is there. And then that pursuit can take you down a rabbit hole that is far away from where you really want to be. It can take you away from what is really important to you and who you really are.
Our view of what is central to our lives changes, as we grow and mature. When I was in my 20’s I was focused on establishing my career. In my 30’s, I was completely engaged in family life. In my 40’s, I was once again chasing work. In my... Read More
Organizational psychology studies how to fashion work so that employees will enjoy it and want to keep doing it. Recent research has focused on how to encourage employees to feel “engaged” with their work and the company they work for. Engaged employees are more likely to be creative and innovative, which is especially important in our rapidly changing economy. At The Everett Clinic, where I work, employee engagement is so high that our organization has been selected by Fortune magazine as one of the top 100 companies to work for in the United States three years in a row.
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