A distressed dad sat in my office, tears in his eyes, describing the last two years of his life. His 15-year-old son, Joey, started having problems at 13 years of age—poor school performance, lying, hanging out with troubled friends, anger, and breaking house rules. This semester was going a little better, but he was worried. After the turmoil of the last two years, he was waiting for the other shoe to drop—a telephone call from the school, Joey not coming home on time, or a screaming, yelling episode. He felt bad. He had lost whatever parental confidence he had gained during Joe’s... Read More
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Before a drunk driver killed my brother, I often felt like I lived within in a circle of protection. While I had challenges in my life, I hadn’t experienced unexpected death. Tragic events happened to others, in distant parts of the world, far away from my backyard. But when he died at 32 years of age, I realized that I was just as vulnerable as anyone else. At the time, it shook my world. But, years later, I realized that I was a member of a very large club. It helped me have more compassion for others.
It seems unfair to me that some people seem to have so much tragedy! Their... Read More
What if you are the grouch I was talking about in last week’s post? What can you do to improve your disposition?
No one likes to be negative. Yet some adults struggle to see their cup as half full. To them it just seems half empty—no matter how hard they try to see it differently. The blue sky, speckled with clouds floating by, just looks like a dreary overcast day. They struggle to see the blue, but they just don’t. All they see are the clouds…
Some of this may be your temperament (e.g. genetic) and some may be learned. My mother has always been an optimist and looked at the... Read More