The other day, an acquaintance told me— “I’m afraid to dream about the future. I’ve had so many disappointments in my life. I don’t want to be disappointed again.” As a psychologist, I’ve heard this sentiment many times. But when I asked him about these disappointments, he brought up events that are part of the natural course of life—the death of a loved one or changes in work life. His life hadn’t turned out the way he had imagined. When he was in his 20’s, he envisioned a different life than he is living. Now in his mid 50’s, he’s afraid to dream about the future.
It’s not... Read More