Last week, I attended an open house for employees of The Everett Clinic of our new facility in Smokey Point. I have worked at the Clinic for almost 20 years, and this is one of our biggest projects. It’s an amazing building, incorporating many exciting new ideas in streamlining and improving the patient experience through a new design. But what really impressed me was the pride that the employees displayed as they walked through this shiny new building. This feeling of pride, excitement, and enthusiasm among our staff was palpable. For me, it was this shine that moved me, more than the... Read More
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This fall, thousands of 18 year olds will be leaving for college. It’s a huge transition for young people—adjusting to living away from home. But it’s a major life change for parents too. We have spent 18 years caring for, nurturing, and watching over our children. And, while our role as a parent has constantly changed as they have grown, they have always been under our roof.
I remember when both of my children started kindergarten—another big life event in our parental life. On that day, tears came to my eyes as I turned them over to the educational system.
I brought both of... Read More
When I was in graduate school, I became good friends with one of my professors. Andy was wonderful. He was creative, kind, and saw the world in fresh ways. He called us doctoral students—“my doctor babies”. He was always taking us out to dinner because he knew we didn’t have much money. After I graduated, and moved away, we stayed in touch. A few years later, his alcohol abuse grew into full blown alcoholism. He lost his faculty position, his wife, and his status. A few months later, he killed himself.
I felt terrible. Even though I lived 3000 miles away, I felt that somehow his “... Read More
In a recent New York Times Op-ed essay (August 4th 2012), Madeline Levine wrote a thoughtful piece titled "Raising successful children". It’s well worth reading.
She re-visits the recent debate on key aspects of successful parenting circa 2012. The terms "tiger moms" and "helicopter parents" have found their way into our daily conversation. Much of this debate centers on the parenting issues of today--how involved should parents be in their child's life? ... Read More
My wife (she is also a psychologist) and I just returned from spending a week on Cape Cod attending a conference. Our two adult daughters joined us for much of our stay. It was wonderful seeing both of them! I am always delighted to spend time with them.
In modern life, with cell phones at the ever ready, it is easier to stay in touch with adult kids that live far away than it was in my young adulthood. My parents had to rely on letters, because phone calls were expensive. But today, a regular call or text keeps us in touch at a very low cost. But it is no substitute for sharing a... Read More
Are you too busy?
Are you always "ahead of yourself"?--Thinking about the next thing "to do" on your list? Do you feel disappointed in yourself because you haven't accomplished as much as you thought you should on a day to day basis? Are you exhausted at the end of your day?
If you answered yes to most of these questions, join the club! Everyday life in 2012 is a mad dash. Between preparing meals, cleaning up, laundry, shopping, maintaining a household, driving to and from work, working, driving kids to and from activities, helping with homework (in my day, I never would have... Read More
What is the hardest thing you have ever done?
Many of us want to make changes in our life (helping people make change is the bread and butter of my work). It is easy to make a list of the things that you would like to change --lose weight, get exercise, find a new job, make new friends, fall in love, etc.
It can be a little harder to think about the qualities you would like to change about yourself--be kinder, work harder, procrastinate less, be more expressive or more assertive.
It is super easy to think about what you would like other's to change! But then again,... Read More
In addition to being a husband and father, I’ve been a clinical psychologist for more than 30 years. I received my doctorate in clinical psychology in 1977 and was a recipient of a National Institute of Mental Health fellowship in community psychology. I’ve been the Director of The Everett Clinic’s Center for Behavioral Health since it opened in 1994 and specialize in working with children, families and adults (I especially enjoy working with teens!).
In addition to my clinical practice, I enjoy writing and have been fortunate to have published numerous articles in professional... Read More
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