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A tsunami of depression and anxiety

Dr. Paul | April 18, 2018 |

In the last year, many of my medical colleagues have asked me— “Do you think that there is an increase in depression and anxiety”? I hadn’t thought much about it, but in the first three months of this year, our Behavioral Health department at The Everett Clinic was hit by a tsunami wave of adults and children coming in with these conditions. In January through March alone, we saw over 1500 new patients asking for help. This is unprecedented in the 25 years I have run our department. What’s going on?

With regard to depression, a 2017 study of over 600,000 individuals found... Read More

Present Parenting

Dr. Paul | April 11, 2018 |

When my daughters were little, I had two important realizations that changed the course of my parental life.

I recognized that their childhood was going to fly by, like a flash of lightning in a summer sky. Before I knew it, they would be out of our nest. And, I recognized, that as a full time working parent, my time with them would be limited. Like most parents, I had to balance work, parenthood, household responsibilities—in other words, the laundry of life. How was I going to approach this time-limited opportunity?

In that instant, I made several major parental decisions.... Read More

How to help children succeed

Dr. Paul | April 04, 2018 |

A couple of weeks ago, I was having lunch at my favorite Chinese restaurant. At a nearby table, an enthusiastic Dad was helping his 3-year-old trace the alphabet on colored paper. His son was excited and clearly enjoying all of the attention and praise he received from his father. “Great job, Joey” his father exclaimed as the little boy drew an “e” with his small hands.

I remembered how delightful it was to share in my young children’s desire to learn and understand the world around them. They are sponges for knowledge. While sometimes their innocent wonderings, repeated over and... Read More

The value of friendship

Dr. Paul | March 28, 2018 |

I remember my childhood chum, Dennis. We did everything together. We played ping pong until we fell from exhaustion. A brief snack later, we played Monopoly until his parents sent me home. I returned after dinner to play basketball into the night. Who needed to see the hoop? We were best friends. All we needed was each other.

Ultimately, I moved away, and our friendship faded. But childhood friendships stay alive in adult minds. They bring forth warm memories of innocence, loyalty, and love.

Adolescent male relationships have a unique flavor. They taste of adventure and... Read More

Losing your cool

Dr. Paul | March 20, 2018 |

Child in a blue shirt crying while losing her cool.

The other night I was tired, hungry, and feeling overwhelmed when I got home from work. It was a long day. My wife, who had a cold for several days, asked me to do something. I barked back at her.

I felt terrible.

Jill and Jim, with a new baby, both of whom work full-time, are often grumpy when their infant has a bad night. On those days, getting into a disagreement is as frequent as rainy days in a Northwest winter. But, when they’re sleep deprived—a minor conflict can turn into a vicious yelling match. After it’s over, they both feel awful.

How often do we lose our... Read More

Are you spoiling your kids?

Dr. Paul | March 13, 2018 |

Child throwing a temper tantrum and pointing finger.

Marion, age 3, was helping her mom shop. When they approached the checkout counter, Marion saw a toy she wanted. When her mom said she couldn’t have it, Marion started screaming and crying. She threw herself on the floor and kicked her legs. Her mother felt intensely humiliated by her daughter’s fit, and after a few minutes, she gave in and bought her daughter the toy.

Bill grew up in a poor family. As a child, he didn’t have many toys and wasn’t able to participate in any after-school activities. When he had children, he decided that they wouldn’t go without. As a result, his son... Read More

Cognitive changes in aging parents

Dr. Paul | March 07, 2018 |

Joe is concerned about his 68-year-old father, Henry, who is becoming more forgetful. Henry doesn’t remember the stories that Joe tells him. But what concerns Joe the most is his father’s moodiness, irritability, and anger. He seems to be more emotional lately, and frequently says things to Joe that are hurtful. His Dad doesn’t think before he speaks! He appears very different to Joe.

Henry has a few health problems—diabetes, high blood pressure, and high cholesterol. But otherwise, he’s reasonably healthy. Joe’s worried. What’s going on with his Dad?

Aging does not affect... Read More

Life is change

Dr. Paul | February 27, 2018 |

In this Sunday’s New York Times (2/25/18), Sasha Cohen, the 2006 Figure Skating Olympic Silver medalist, shared the story of her retirement from skating. She spent her childhood and adolescence training for competition. Like all Internationally ranked athletes, her entire life was her sport. But after she stepped off Olympic ice, she was unprepared for her future as an ordinary civilian. She felt lost and uncertain. Michael Phelps, the most decorated swimmer of all time,... Read More

One more mass murder

Dr. Paul | February 21, 2018 |

It’s horrifying to see the faces of children whose lives are over, just because they were at the wrong place at the wrong time. Their families, friends, and schoolmates will be forever traumatized by this horror. It’s becoming such a common occurrence in this American landscape—Sandy Hook, Las Vegas, and now, Florida. Locally, we’ve experienced our own terror, in Marysville and Mukilteo. We’re no strangers to this geography. In 2017, there were 346 mass murders, where four or more individuals were killed.

It’s too easy to blame this on individuals with psychiatric disabilities. It’s... Read More

Lessons from the Olympics

Boe | February 14, 2018 |

I love watching the Olympics! It’s amazing to see these young athletes perform triple toe loops on the ice, aerials on the ski slopes, and unbelievable speed and daring in the downhill. In between watching events, we learn about the competitors, their lives, and how they found their way onto the Olympic stage.

These competitions break down the walls between nations and bring us together for the best of who we can be. And who doesn’t love it when their countrymen and women win gold! It’s a festival of light.

While I can barely remember the strength and power of my youth—I... Read More

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