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Surviving the myth of the perfect parent

Dr. Paul
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When my oldest daughter was 3 years old, I had my first (pre)school conference. The teacher kindly explained to me that my daughter was “shy”, but otherwise was “no problem”. I was stunned.  My entire parental life flashed in front of my eyes. She must be shy because we moved when she was 6 months old. Perhaps I was too strict, or maybe not strict enough? What had I done to make my daughter shy? I must have done something wrong. I was wracked with self-doubt. Read more about Surviving the myth of the perfect parent

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Learning from life's pain

Dr. Paul
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Why me? It’s a natural question when a family member dies before their time, when a relationship ends, or when we lose a job.

At first, we feel stunned. Deep inside, we expect that our lives should unfold uneventfully. We believe that we should be the master of our fate. Tragedy happens to others, but not us.

At the same time, our culture is filled with pictures of happy, satisfied men and women pursuing their dreams. When we are the victims of misfortune, we can feel let down by life. We may feel that something is wrong with us. We may feel that we did something wrong. Read more about Learning from life's pain

Making changes in life: Why is it so hard?

Dr. Paul
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How many times have you considered making a change in your life?

Joe doesn’t really like his job much anymore, but it’s secure, pays well and has good benefits. He wants to do something different, but can’t seem to get started.

Sarah wants to start an exercise program. She knows that being so sedentary is bad for her health, and her doctor has encouraged her to go the gym, but she never seems to get there.

Harold wants to take a yoga class, but he feels stuck in the same old daily rut and hasn’t even taken the first step to find out where he can take a class. Read more about Making changes in life: Why is it so hard?

Retirement

Dr. Paul
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Every day in the United States, thousands of baby boomers are turning 65. No wonder many of us hear about friends and family that are retiring or at least talking about it. I have several friends that took the big step. Read more about Retirement

Marriage basics 101: Housework

Dr. Paul
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Remember the big four areas of conflict in marriage? My wife reminds me about the fifth one--the division of household labor, aka housework! Read more about Marriage basics 101: Housework

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Adolescent suicide

Dr. Paul
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In the last year, it seems like our community has experienced more than its share of adolescent suicide. Each death tears at us, and brings fear to our hearts. We worry about each and every one of our children. Read more about Adolescent suicide

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Marriage basics 101: In-laws

Dr. Paul
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Recall the big four sources of conflict in marriage: Children, sex, money, and in-laws. Today’s blog is on resolving issues related to your relations.

I was very fortunate. I had great in-laws. They liked me immediately, respected me and felt that their daughter was fortunate to find me. I liked them too. They were generous, kind and easy to get along with. Over 30 years, our relationship grew close. Read more about Marriage basics 101: In-laws

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Do kids have too much to say?

Dr. Paul
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Frequently I hear parents complain—“My kids are always arguing with me about something!” “I don’t want chicken for dinner!” “I don’t want to go shopping!”, “I don’t want to go to bed!”, “PLEASE—five more minutes on my X-box!”-- The list is endless. Adults reflect back on their own childhood and can’t remember expressing their own opinions so strongly. Their chorus—“We did what our parents told us to do without any backtalk!” Why are our youngsters so argumentative? Read more about Do kids have too much to say?

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Marriage basics 101: Children

Dr. Paul
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By now you remember the big four sources of marital conflict--sex, money, in-laws, and children. Today’s blog is about kids.

My wife and I got along very well about almost everything. Everything except child rearing--not a small topic area in family life! What we agreed on: We both wanted children. We both wanted them to become honest, hard working, caring adults. We both wanted them to have many different experiences; and most importantly, we both loved kids! Read more about Marriage basics 101: Children

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