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Helping our elderly family members with life transitions

Dr. Paul
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Dixie, 92 years old, was living in Florida, with her two adult children residing in the Pacific Northwest. Increasingly, she was becoming housebound. She started telling her daughter-in-law how she was ready to “go home to the Lord”. Her son became increasingly concerned. He wasn’t sure what to do to help his very independent, strong-willed Mom who was developing age-related memory problems. He felt strongly that it was impractical and dangerous for her to live on her own. And, her quality of life was rapidly declining. Read more about Helping our elderly family members with life transitions

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Perfectionism: a blessing or a curse?

Dr. Paul
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I consider myself fortunate. I don’t need to be perfect! (That is a really good thing, because I am so far from it!). But some adults and children suffer from the need to be flawless. In theory, we all know that it is impossible to be faultless. But that doesn’t stop some people from trying! Read more about Perfectionism: a blessing or a curse?

Finding common ground on housework

Dr. Paul
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Last week in The Everett Herald (May 11, 2015) there was a sad story about a woman who allegedly fired a gun at her husband over housework! I am sure there was more to her tale. But I bet that there are more than a few women who have felt fed up over their husband’s lack of household help. Read more about Finding common ground on housework

Coming home to your self

Dr. Paul
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I love coming home at the end of the day.

As I drive up to our brightly colored house, I enjoy our spring garden, with its wild apple tree in the middle, branches standing on end, going in all directions.  Our red door welcomes me home. Everything is so familiar and comfortable. I always like to take off my work clothes first—packing away my responsibilities as therapist, supervisor and colleague.  When I come downstairs, I have finally arrived. Read more about Coming home to your self

Are we making it too easy for kids?

Dr. Paul
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Today’s parents worry that their children have developed a whopping sense of entitlement. They demand and expect so much from their parents and the world around them! Many kids think that family meals are like going out to eat—they get to order what they want for dinner. Send it back if it’s not perfect! Read more about Are we making it too easy for kids?

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The mind can calm the body

Dr. Paul
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In the early 1950’s, Dr. Neil Miller made a startling discovery. He found that laboratory animals could learn to decrease their blood pressure and heart rate. Basing his experiments on B.F. Skinner’s principles of “operant conditioning”, the animals received food or “positive reinforcement” whenever their heart rate of blood pressure went down. Soon, the animals learned how to control their vital signs. Read more about The mind can calm the body

The importance of spirituality in everyday life

Dr. Paul
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Today, while visiting Barcelona, I wandered through Gaudi’s famous architectural wonder, La Sagrada Familia (The Holy Family). Conceived in the late 1800’s by Antoni Gaudi, Catalan architect, it has been under construction for over a century. It is still being built, but much of it is completed. Gaudi, a deeply religious man, created a vast sanctuary with columns made to look like tall trees, which hold up the ceiling of the church. The tops of the columns have edges that look like leaves. Read more about The importance of spirituality in everyday life

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